In a city as diverse as New York, a neighborhood where dating happens naturally can be difficult to find. Dorothy Castillo found the prospect of moving to Manhattan enticing for any number of reasons.
Not least of all because she assumed the city’s dating scene would be far superior to that of suburban Rockland County, N. Castillo, 27, a special-education teacher who bought a studio apartment in Washington Heights two and a half years ago.“I was truly and honestly — I don’t know if this is naïve — but I was hoping to meet someone at the grocery store or walking down the street,” she said.
“I texted my mom and said, ‘I want to move to Woodlawn.’ Within a few weeks I was in a Realtor’s office.”Last May, she did indeed move there, to a one-bedroom co-op she bought. “There are a lot of young people here because it’s a fun place to live. And for those hoping to meet in what her clients often refer to as “the natural way,” neighborhood can make all the difference, she said. One evening, she saw an attractive man at an event on the Upper West Side, where she lived, but she was too shy to approach.
And Woodlawn, a neighborhood filled with one- and two-family houses as well as some brick apartment buildings, has proved unexpectedly welcoming to Ms. I’d like to meet someone not in a bar, but I’m just enjoying my 20s, going on some crazy dates.”In a similarly surprising corollary, a neighborhood with a high percentage of single people doesn’t necessarily translate into a good singles neighborhood. Afterward, she was standing on the sidewalk and he walked by again.
Living here has literally been like a live dating app.”She and friends from the building have traveled to Tulum, Mexico, participated in a coed fantasy football league, gone on daylong bike trips and sweated through Soul Cycle classes together.
In Manhattan, she said, the men she met through apps would boast about being a top person at a place like Oracle, the high-tech company.“Now I’m into the kind of guy with facial hair who wears a leather bracelet and goes salsa dancing,” she said.
Based on that data, the New York City Economic Development Corporation declared the neighborhood “an attractive spot for all young singles” in 2014. The area “is not such a good spot for single people,” said Mirsad Kadribasic, 41, an owner of La Bohème Lounge on Stillwell Avenue in Bensonhurst, which on a recent Friday night was half-filled with couples smoking hookahs at velvet banquettes. It’s not like Park Slope, where people are hanging out all the time.”Though it may be the envy of Bensonhurst, the Park Slope dating scene did not impress Robert Di Biase when he moved there from Washington, D. When his aging bulldog compelled him to trade his walk-up for an elevator building, he seized on the opportunity and rented a one-bedroom on the Lower East Side, a quick walk to local favorites like Stanton Social or Mr. She later found out that he had come into the cafe where she was an owner just the day before. “When you’re in the same neighborhood you get that chance over and over again.”But Michael J.
My roommate jokes about JOMO — the joy of missing out,” Ms. But the ceaseless courtship ritual has provided fodder for “Soon by You,” a web series she produces and acts in about dating in the community. He left an apartment share to be closer to his then-boyfriend, his friends and the practice he had just started.
For those who tire of the West Side, she added, there’s the smaller dating scene on the East Side. When he and his boyfriend broke up a short time later, he found himself single in the center of one of the city’s most vibrant gay dating scenes. It felt serendipitous, like you could meet people from different walks of life,” Dr. “Hell’s Kitchen is so concentrated with eligible men,” he said. ”He said he was glad that his rental building, Gotham West, is on 11th Avenue, because it affords some distance from the scene. “It’d just be nice to have to think about it a little less, to live in less of a concentrated dating pool,” he said.
The New York neighborhoods with the highest ratio of single women to single men, ages 20 to 34, are the Upper East Side (0.6 men to every woman), Murray Hill (0.68), the Upper West Side (0.79) and Brownsville, Brooklyn (0.8) according to 2014 data from the American Community Survey compiled by the city’s Economic Development Corporation.
Neighborhoods with the highest percentages of single men tend to be immigrant communities, according to a researcher at the development corporation — Elmhurst/South Corona, Queens has the best odds for women in the city, with 1.57 men to every woman; Jackson Heights/North Corona is a close second at 1.54 men to every woman.
While finding one’s tribe may be the underpinning of dating success, certain factors make it more likely to happen in some places than others.