Even if he’s not at the “meet the kids” stage, she needs to know that when the time comes, she’ll be comfortable with the intro.
In the last 30 years or so, we’ve seen a dramatic shift in how society views single, unmarried parents.
While stigma and perceptions vary by cultural group, and changes in acceptance have occurred at different paces, it’s now commonly accepted that there are unmarried people who have children seeking love and companionship.
Single mothers, particularly in Black communities, have been viewed both as strong heroines who are the backbones of their families as well as vicious destroyers of the traditional family structure.
She acknowledges that there’s always the fear a man won’t be welcoming when she tells him she has a child, but that just lets her know she needs to keep it moving.
She also has a personal rule of waiting a year before introducing someone she’s dating to her child, because she believes children are impressionable and she wants to avoid hurting her son as much as possible.
There are no rules stating that every person you date should be viewed as a future stepparent.