productive to increase your chances of finding your way out of there, instead of trying to be her best friend and digging yourself further into the limbo.“Go to the gym, groom yourself more, get a good job, increase your social status; generally do more of the things that person finds attractive.
At the end of the day, once you have had your time of being the jerk, you'll turn into the nice guy. Nice guys finish last because they should finish last.They are drowning in their own ambiguities; it’s in their nature. They have been living in a dimension where “I’m fine,” means “nothing is fine,” and the obvious answer is “do whatever you want to do." They religiously use this shield of passive aggressiveness as a defense mechanism.With that being said, both men and women will continue to grow and learn about themselves after dating different people. They will exhaust themselves from men buying them drinks at clubs and instead, pursue dreams of settling down and buying a house.They will long for security and a nice guy to love them unconditionally, rather than one who leaves them tirelessly piecing together suspicious alibis. Unfortunately, often times we don't know what's good for us until we've been exposed to what's bad for us.Women need to get their hearts broken and self-esteem perished once, twice or maybe three times to recognize what they deserve. Your emotionless charm and excessive lying serves to help women grow from being the naive girls they once were.At the end of the day, I agree with Chris, being "nice" just isn't quite good enough. You need to be a man of integrity, a man who respects himself and others. If you are THOSE things, you can be a "nice" guy and still finish first.